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Busy Isn’t a Flex

Laurence Paquette
May 28
1 min read

There was a time when I believed being busy made me important.

My calendar was packed. I was jumping from meeting to meeting, replying to emails late at night, multitasking through the day. People would comment on how busy I was, and I took it as a compliment. It felt like proof that I mattered. That I was in demand. That I was successful.

But over time, busy stopped feeling empowering. It started feeling empty.

I was exhausted. I kept going because slowing down felt like failure. But one day I realized I could not remember the last time I felt clear-headed. Or creative. Or present. I had confused movement with meaning.

So I stopped.

I stopped treating back-to-back meetings as proof of my dedication.I stopped answering emails just to prove my worth.I stopped saying yes to everything.

Instead, I began asking myself different questions.

Did I make progress on something that matters?Did I leave space to think?Did I feel present with the people I care about?Did I have energy left for my kids, my partner, myself?

I still work hard. I still care deeply. But I no longer measure my value by how full my schedule is.

I now glorify balance. I glorify clarity. I glorify boundaries.

Because the truth is, a calm nervous system is a superpower. And a well-rested brain makes better decisions than a burnt-out one ever could.

Busy is not a badge of honor. You are allowed to slow down. And you do not owe anyone your constant availability.

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